hi Jan - thanks for your response
according to Ancestry's "5th cousin" match diagram - we are likely to be 12 degrees apart
I was born in 1954, but he was born in 1986 - one generation gap
the only common name we have found so far is van der Wal -
he has Engeltje van der Wal (b 1723) in his tree m to Jan Keppel - he also has van Oijen in his tree (I haven't, so far...)
I have Peterke van der Wal (b 1773) and Pietje van der Wal (b 1830 Herwijnen) who m Jan Gerritse Kruijs (b 1822 Herwijnen)
however still have to find our common ancestor - perhaps in Pietje van der Wal's line
I have noticed that some of his ancestors - van Oijen - were living in the same area as my van der Wal ancestors
By the way: -
had a "3rd cousin" DNA match who turns out to be 2nd cousin (1x removed) - she was born in 1927
had a "4th cousin" DNA match who turns out to be a 3rd cousin in my tree - she was born in 1955
and a '4th cousin" DNA match who turns out to be a 3rd cousin too - she is about my age
Vera